Avoid Being Hated

Avoid Being Hated Can't we all just get along? Well. Maybe. The ultimate conflict resolution, this podcast gives you a look into someone else's every day life so you can avoid saying or doing the wrong thing. We are your guide to awkward situations.
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Nov 20, 2017

Toni and Liz beg for your forgiveness and discuss all the ways the things they've done that you possibly hate them for....and discuss what's next and how we recover from here!

Nov 8, 2017

Join us as we record LIVE from FinCon 2017!  One of our favorite places because we are face to face and get to see some of our favorite people!

Today we are joined by Deacon Hayes from  We chat about household finances, challenges and benefits of managing your money.

Oct 3, 2017

Liz evacuates to Toni's house which sustains more damage from Irma than her house in Miami.  Hear about how their friendship survived the storm, and Toni's most vulnerable story ever told on a public forum!

Sep 27, 2017

Chatting with our friend Chris Osborne from the Play Comics podcast about the ins and outs of the lumberyard, something Toni and Liz have no context for.  We learn about sheets of plywood and all the things to avoid, like Pinterest before you go to the yard.

Sep 5, 2017

A little different from our usual conversations, we are enthralled with the Lectors story of Cuba and America and how El Lectors came to be and how they are continuing on here in the US.

Today, Toni and Liz finish of part 2 of our conversation with Marcos Ruiz from the El Lector podcast!

Aug 29, 2017

This week we are visiting with our friend Marcos about how to note be hated by Cubans.  This is the first part of our two part conversation.

Aug 22, 2017

Are you ready for school to begin? Avoid being hated by your child's teacher and listen to this podcast with Jess. In this week's episode she shares insider tips on how to get your kids ready for the school year and how to have a great relationship with their teacher.

Take Aways:

1. Make sure bed times and routines are in place before the school year starts. Start practicing a week before school starts so your kids are use to waking up early and going to bed earlier. 

2. Read to your kids in the evenings.

3. Introduce yourself to your child's teacher and follow up a few days later with an email.

4. If you do have a problem with your child's teacher, communicate using "I" and always assume the best.

5. If you need to have a conversation with your child's teacher, make an appointment. The carpool line is not the place to have an in depth discussion about your child's grade.

Aug 15, 2017

Liz and Adam have embarked on a 30 day journey to rid their lives of all happiness and joy, otherwise known as the Whole 30 Diet. In this week's episode we chat with Beki, a Whole 30 graduate, and she shares some tips and pointers to help make getting along with your friends easier during this time of sadness. ;-)

Aug 8, 2017

This week they talk with Myk O'Connor, a driver for the ride share company Fasten and host of the Can I Get a Ride podcast to get another perspective.

You'll need to take a listen as Myk shares one experience that left Toni speechless.

Take Aways:

  1. Don't send drunk friends home alone! This is both dangerous for your friend and the driver!
  2. You can sit in the front or the back, it's your choice.
  3. When you are inside the car, remember to use your inside voices.
  4. Remember to tip! Uber allows in app tipping, so make sure you share the love (and the money) with your driver.
Aug 2, 2017

Yay!!!! We made it to our 50th episode! Go us! 

Last week Toni & Liz gave their perspective on using ride share companies to get around. This week they talk with Myk O'Connor, a driver for the ride share company Fasten and host of the Can I Get a Ride podcast to get another perspective.

Jul 25, 2017

Have you ever ridden in an Uber, Lyft, or Taxi? If so you might be able to relate to this week's podcast episode. Liz and Toni are discussing ride sharing etiquette and a few tips for their drivers.

Take Aways:

  1. Drive assertively, but also safely. Don't kill your passengers, they still have to pay, tip, leave a review at the end of the ride.
  2. This isn't the Daytona 500. Take turns at reasonable speeds.
  3. We like a car that smells clean... not SCENTED.
  4. We also like a car that is clean. You don't have to drive a BMW, but please make an effort to keep the back seat useable.
Jul 18, 2017

Finishing up our conversation with Guire about not annoying your ER nurse.  We wander into not annoying other patients and how Toni transports her husband to the ER.  Guire has more good tips about conversation etiquette with your nurse and we finish up with our final take aways.

Jul 12, 2017

What really constitutes an emergency?  Does anyone really like needles and shots?  Do I need to clarify that I do not like shots or needles?  Meet our friend Guire.  He is the ER nurse we all hope to get when we have to visit the ER!  ...and, let's be serious, we've all been there!  Today, we chat all things ER.

Take Aways:

  1.  Stick with the 1-10 scale.  Don't tell the nurse it's a doesn't help.
  2. Triage is an algorithm of 1-5 emergencies.  You are being skipped for a reason...someone else's emergency is more, urgent!
  3. Think of our medical system as one of finite resources.  If you are there for a scrape you will be using a resource that someone else, in more urgent need may need.
Jun 13, 2017

Can you be hated by therapist?  Turns out the answer is no, but just in case, you should listen to this episode. And. Who should see a therapist?, everyone.  Hear why.  Today Toni and Liz are joined by Courtney, the QuadFather from the QuadCast and discuss etiquette in counseling sessions and which couch to lay on.

Jun 6, 2017

Finishing up our conversation with Brett from last week, we talk more about his experience.

May 30, 2017

Liz and Toni both cry in this episode. Bring your tissues and join us as we chat with Brett.  Brett is a veteran of the US Navy who lost the lower part of his right leg in a heroic act. He has recently competed in Prince Harry’s Invictus Games in both Sitting Volleyball and Swimming where Brett was awarded the Gold medal (Sitting Volleyball) and a Silver medal (Swimming: 200 Relay). Brett is also on the USA Sitting Volleyball team and is eyeing the World Championships next year and the Paralympics in Tokyo in 2020.

May 23, 2017

We are diving into the life of pool guys.  Our friend Paul joins us from the Varmints podcast to chat pool maintenance and the dos and don'ts that go along with having someone clean your pool.

May 16, 2017

Dr. Julie Kinn is a clinical and research psychologist and the co-host of the comedy show The Station Wagon Podcast.  She grew up Jewish and shares her experiences and insights with us this week as she endeavors to raise her kids in the Jewish faith as well.

Take aways for this episode:

1. Check your Hebrew tattoo with someone before putting it on your body to make sure it says what you want it to.

2. Respect people's beliefs. Have conversations and listen more than you speak.

3. Don't assume American muslims and jews hate each other.


May 9, 2017

Financial decision made while you are in a relationship can long outlast that relationship.  A little forethought, planning and communication can alleviate issues later in the relationship, and if the relationship comes to an end.  Our guest today, Sarah Li Cain is a financial story teller who joins us to chat about how to succeed financially in relationships.

May 2, 2017

TEXTING IN CAPS SHOULD BE USED SPARINGLY, LIKE FOR SARCASM AND URGENCY. Liz and Toni discuss this and other useful texting tips to help you be liked in your text threads.

Apr 25, 2017

Movies. Sitting in a theater for any amount of time can be fun or trying depending on the people around you.  Being part of an enthusiastic crowd can make your night, but a loud talker who can't follow the plot can ruin the experience.  Liz and Toni chat about the little things you can do to make everyone's experience better, including your own!

Take Aways:

  1. Buy your tickets ahead of time and avoid the lines!  Using a site, or app like Fandango makes the process quick and painless!
  2. Be considerate of those around you.  Turn your phone off, or at least to silent and lower the brightness of your screen for crying out loud!
  3. Hang in there for the plot reveal and learn to whisper if you have to ask questions.
  4. Pick up your trash. No one wants to wade in or out through your cartons of popcorn.
  5. If you have a small bladder, pick your seat accordingly.

#PodernFamily moments

  1. The One Good Thing podcast comes up while we are discussing the Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez movie "Gigli," because we wonder if there is anything good from this one star wonder.
  2. Our very own Lord Saunders co-hosts The Gravity Beard podcast this week.  Their discussion of current events and things that happened on this day in history is riveting.

About Liz and Toni:

Liz has been to the theater more and more in the past 6 months, while Toni stays home to avoid napping at the theater.  They have varying whisper volumes and are passionate about helping people be kind to one another on all occasions. Join them by subscribing to Avoid Being Hated's email list, and on iTunes.  They would appreciate an honest review.

Apr 18, 2017

Today we tackle a current event because it needs to be talked about.  United has a history of mishandling situations, but more importantly the follow up for these situations.  When a company makes a mistake and forces their customers to pay the price, the issue compounds itself.  The initial United situation could have been handled, even poorly, without the public backlash if they had only used a little common sense in how they handled their customers.

Take Aways:

  1. Not every United employee would have handled this situation, and are not to blame. Do not take your frustration out on those employees.  Write or tweet United directly. Be kind to our gate agent.
  2. Follow Wendy's on Twitter.  United, this means you too.
  3. Don't be disingenuous in your apology.  When you make a mistake fix it, own it, apologize sincerely.

At the end of the day, we believe United needs to use some common sense in how they treat customers and handle the backlash of a mistake.

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